Posts Tagged ‘bad bad teachers’

Bet you didn’t sleep well last night. Bet you’re nervous today. Bet you’re scouring the internet and reading all the comments posted under the local news stories, searching social media about the latest local teacher accused of sexual assault, wanting desperately to find what I have written. You know I AM writing about it…you know I AM writing about you.

Every time one of these cases makes the news I think immediately of you. How can I not? I wonder how is it you have gotten away with sexually abusing students for over 20 (yes, TWENTY!) years? There are so many questions…

Over fifteen years ago I found out you had a history of having sex with students. Not “a” student, although that would have been bad enough…but many, many students. Your family – your husband at the time, and your small children – were literally run out of the town where it all began with threats of violence due to your behavior. You seem to have no boundaries in telling the kids things, have you told them you were run out of town? Seems even backwoods, “country folk” as you once referred to one of the boys, don’t appreciate their young sons being preyed on by a school teacher. Maybe it was because some of them were smart enough to figure out that one of your pregnancies was due to your affairs with high school boys. People talk. Seems with you there was plenty to talk about.

Tell me, do YOU know which one of the students fathered the child that you fraudulently passed off as your husband’s for TEN years? My guess is yes, based on the information that the State Police discovered, but I’d like to see you have backbone enough to admit it. Does the boy that fathered this child know he has a daughter? Honestly, I am surprised you didn’t try to sue him for child support. I have no doubt you would have done so, if you thought you could have done it and kept your teaching certificate. Do the kids know who the father of their sibling is? Does your current husband know who the father is and how old the kid was at the time of conception? Bet you concocted a dandy story to cover it up.

You moved to this school district, but the behavior continued. You’ve been here for many years now. This is not a big area. And again, people talk. What I wonder every time one of these cases pops up is, WHEN will you be caught? Not when will you be found out, because everyone knows…the Superintendent, the School Board, fellow teachers and staff…students…parents…your children. When will you be held accountable for all the crimes you have committed against students? Multiple counts of sex acts, stalking, harassing, just to name a few. All felonies. All crimes against children entrusted to your care and authority. How do you manage to stay employed as a teacher? How have you managed to never be arrested? It amazes me. And let’s not forget the paternity fraud you committed and parental alienation you have fostered.

What kind of a stories have you spun over the years that allow your children to even be in the same room with you? They are adults now. They’re old enough to know what it meant having all those high school boys coming in and out of the house, going up to “Mom’s” room. They know what people were talking about in school. They know why the neighbors were talking. I am relieved that they are all out of school now. I used to worry about what would happen if you were arrested while they were in school. Clearly I worried in vain. This school district certainly doesn’t have the balls to fire you.

Eventually, I believe justice will be served. You cannot hide what you have done. There are too many victims. Too many people know. Sooner or later, it will catch up to you. Karma. Reaping what you sow. What goes around comes around and one of these days it will find you. In the meanwhile, you will live your life constantly looking over your shoulder, wondering when that day will come.

Today has been a hard day for me.  I’m not gonna’ lie to you.   It started off with me thinking about working on taxes (we asked for an extension) because my husband‘s ex smells money and wants an increase in child support.  From there it went to two articles in the newspaper.  One on how hard it is for felons to become gainfully employed once they have served their time; the other on women in prison and how art helps them cope.

Both of these are pretty touchy topics for me.  Do NOT misunderstand me.  I am all for child support to the custodial parent.  Actually, I favor shared parenting where possible.  In our case, it is not an option.  I do understand the cost involved in raising children and my husband needs to contribute his share.  I try to give too for that matter.  I love these children.  Have known them since they were small.  Even raised them in my home for three years.  What I have a HUGE issue with is the fact that this woman actually has the balls to take my husband back to court at all, much less for child support.

Of the four children born of the marriage, three belong biologically to my husband; one does not.  The one that does not is the third child.  When the ex became pregnant with this child my husband questioned her because of rumors that were going around town about her having sex with students.  Fast forward ten years.  That child isn’t my husbands.  Which means she is most likely the product of one of the affairs (yes, ONE of – there were reportedly at least a couple of boys) with one of the students.

There truly is NOTHING to envy or be insecure about when considering this woman but I am still going to sound like the “catty” second wife when I say this – This woman in nuts!  So, to protect the children, WE had OUR attorney draw up a sealed court order forbidding paternity to be discussed with the children outside of a counseling setting.  We didn’t want it yelled at the kids during one of their mother’s fits.  We wanted to be able to sit in a supervised setting – all of us together – to share it out in the open and offer love and comfort to all four children.  Did that happen?  NO!  The mother absolutely refused to continue counseling and has used that sealed order against us at every turn.  She sure doesn’t want paternity of this child discussed in any way, shape or form.  Now, let’s add this sick little twist to the story.  We now know that the mother told all four children the truth about paternity the day we had their cheeks swabbed.  She KNEW that child didn’t belong to my husband.  Furthermore, she had already TOLD the children before we even went to court.  And they were so young – 14, 12, 10 and 7 years of age at the time. Not only has this woman made a total mockery of the family courts in our county, she clearly believes she can continue to make a fool out of the Judge.

This brings me back to the issue of child support.  Why in the name of God should this woman be allowed to collect one red cent from my husband for child support when she REFUSES to find the father of the third child and collect child support from him???  He isn’t in High School anymore.  He is now in his early thirties so should be able to hold down some type of employment.  It is clear she doesn’t want to identify the father because there would go her teaching license.  She hasn’t been fired for all the boys she has had sex with here in this area but proving that a former student is the father of her child would be the end of her teaching career.  And it should in my opinion.

As for the prison articles.  How can I be anything but upset?  My daughter was an excellent student.  Perfect, no.  She was like any other teenager.  But she didn’t deserve to be bullied at school for speaking the truth about a teacher having sex with students.  She didn’t deserve to be in the office every week defending her actions or right to talk about it.  She didn’t deserve to be suspended for simply speaking the name of this teacher on campus.  My daughter fought to do the right thing.  She reported an adult abusing their authority over the students in a most despicable way.  No one could or would help her.  She lost faith and headed down the wrong road.  It cost her future.  At times I thought it might cost her life.  I hope she is strong enough to change this into something positive and go forward to help others.

But what about this teacher?  WHY won’t anyone speak up and do the right thing?  The school board knows.  The superintendent knows.  The students know and many parents know.  Why do people accept this type of person even having access to their child?  And why isn’t she being hauled in to court and raked over the coals for her many violations of the court order instead of being allowed to use it as a weapon against us?

You see, hard day.  Too many questions to ponder.  And I can’t help but wonder what someone like Oprah would say about this mess.  Would she find it as unbelievable as I do?  Would Oprah be bothered by the inequality of a young girl who used someone’s credit card and spent $4500 being the one sitting in prison while a woman who has violated many young men, damaged so many young people, and destroyed whole families by her predatory behaviors stands in a classroom?  I believe she would be sickened as any normal person with half a moral compass would be.  But where are the people who have the backbone to stand up and force change?  Where are they?

Like I said, it’s been a rough day.