I remember the day my daughter told me about a teacher at school who was having sex with students like it was yesterday.  We were in our kitchen.  Standing in front of the dishwasher in fact.  The next thing out of her mouth shocked me, and angered me – at her.  She said “and everybody knows about it.”

“EVERYBODY knows about it?  I don’t believe that”, I challenge.  “Other students maybe… but EVERYBODY…meaning other teachers, school administrators, parents even???”  My mind could not comprehend that and my heart would not accept it.  “Absolutely NOT!” I scolded her.  “I don’t believe that for a minute.  And YOU better be careful what you say.”  That was 10 years ago.  My daughter was correct.  This teacher was indeed having sex with students.  Plural.  It was, and still is, shocking to me.

Over the years I have learned a lot about the teachers who exhibit this behavior.  These people are almost always predators.  You will find the occassional teacher who considers themselves “in love” with their victim.  The male teachers are almost without exception punished much more severely than the women.  There are still so many stereotypes about “boys being boys” that it can be difficult to prosecute the female offenders.  Studies show the long-term psychological effects of young men being victimized in this manner are just as damaging to them, sometimes more so, as to young women.  (Read http://www.sesamenet.org/male_vics.html for more information on male victims.  S.E.S.A.M.E – Stop Educators Sexual Abuse, Misconduct and Exploitation www.sesamenet.org is in my opinion, one of the best organizations today working to bring attention to educator abuse.)

Let’s jump back to the case of the teacher I reference above.   She has a history of this behavior going back to when she began her student teaching.  She still teaches today.  The school district she now teaches at is well aware of her history.  THAT is what was and still is most shocking, upsetting and disappointing to me.  They not only didn’t fire this woman, in actuality, they protected her.

Sadly again, what I have learned over the years is that schools protecting these teachers is common practice.  This is quite appropriately called “Passing the trash.”  (Check out http://www.lvrj.com/opinion/-passing-the-trash-in-public-schools-117893284.html)  Schools will approach a teacher known or suspected of being inappropriately involved with students and discretely ask them to leave the district.  In exchange, the district gives a good recommendation to the next district about the teacher.  Laws are changing but depending on which state you live in, they vary greatly.

My daughter wasn’t sexually abused at school, but she was harassed, intimidated, threatened.   She didn’t deserve that.  She was telling the truth.  How many more kids are there like my daughter?  Kids who speak up about a serious issue, only to be shot down.  My daughter didn’t give up until she had given me enough proof, enough stories that could be collaborated, enough names, that I believed her.  We fought a good fight, for a long while, to get things changed.  We didn’t win the battle.  We tried hard, but came up short.  But I promise you this, in spite of losing a few battles, in the end, we WILL win the war.

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  1. It’s disgusting. You are so right. We have a long way to go before our society wraps its head around this.

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