This week, more than usual, the topic of paternity fraud has been on my mind.  Two reasons I suppose.  One, my husbands ex is after his tax returns to take him back to court for more child support; two, I have joined two groups – one focused on the topic of paternity fraud, the other on child support reform.

Now, don’t get me wrong, a father SHOULD pay child support.  I myself am a mother who collects child support.  My son is 20 years old.  He is severely affected by autism.  Most likely, he will not ever have the ability to live on his own.  My ex didn’t pay support for years, nor did he see his son.  He is NOT the kind of father any woman wants for her child, but that is a topic for another post.

On my husband’s 47th birthday he sat on the side of our bed and wept like a child.  We had just received word that one of his children was not biologically his.  We didn’t expect it to be the child in the middle.  We really just wanted to make sure the oldest was his.  This came into question after discovering that the ex-wife was probably having sex with at least three other men at the time of conception.  Talk about a dog in heat.

At the time, we had custody of all four children due to the mother being beaten up by a former student.  Yep.  That’s right.  This woman is a teacher.  Someone who stands in front of our impressionable teenagers every day.  Scary if you ask me.  The student was her “boyfriend” even when he was in school, although she denied that in court there is plenty of evidence supporting the fact that they had a relationship.

Bottom line, one-third of all children born within wedlock do not belong biologically to the husband.  Many of these men pay support for years, even after proving the child is not theirs.  I don’t know about you but I see this as a problem.  No man should have to pay support on a child that isn’t his.  I really don’t care how long he has been in the picture.  If he wants to consider that child his, fantastic.  But to COURT ORDER him to pay, nonsense.

In the case of my husband, not only did this woman deceive him by declaring him father of this child, but she also named this child as his in divorce proceedings.  Did she know the child wasn’t his?  According to former friends, yes.  According to my stepchildren, yes.  They were actually told the day we had their cheeks swabbed.  That is fraud.  Plain and simple.

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